R. A. D. Reactive Attachment Disorder Real Anxious Diagnosis

If you have parented an RAD kid before, you know that nothing makes you quite as anxious as another RAD diagnosis!  The article I’m linking to this week is by a good friend, who addresses the issue squarely and not only explains things well, but gives hope and lots of great resources.  I have read all but one of her recommended books and have garnished good things form all of them.  Another book she didn’t mention but I found helpful is :  Relief for Hurting Parents by Buddy Scott.  Many RAD kids have learning and developmental issues.

Thank-you Shelly for this insightful article.  http://www.squidoo.com/shellywh

Hoping this IMproves your day,

Sally Ellis www.imagineimprovement.com


Raising Successful Children


Certainly we all want our kids to turn out great. This informative article from the New York Times encourages a more hands off outlook than you might expect.



Hoping this IMproves your day,

Sally Ellis @www.imagineimprovement.com

Please Nurture that Baby!!

We’ve done foster care for years, and I know many of you are foster or adoptive parents.  The damage is real.  But the hope is real too.  Check out this link for some real science and some real encouragement!


Hoping this IMproves your day,

Sally Ellis


A Mother’s Day Letter for a Special Needs Mom



This Mother’s Day there will be thousands of Moms who don’t receive handmade notes, or  home crafted, crayon colored cards. These moms mother for a smile or a tender touch, they mother because that is simply what you do as a Mom.  This letter is for the Special Needs Mom , whose child is unable to write or say the words this Mom may long to hear.

Dear Mom,

Even without my words you always know what I need.

When I am hurting or afraid, frustrated or weary, you gather me home into the safety of your arms.

You know what makes me smile, and fills my face with light.

You make my happiness when you sing my favorite song,  and sweep the softness of my favorite blanket, across the curve of my cheek.

And when you take me for walks and I feel the warmth of the sun , the cool breeze brushing by my skin.

You ignore the words of others, telling you what I cannot do- and then fill the hours of every day telling me what I can.

Every day you see other kids –  doing more, Yet you celebrate me.

Pushing away sadness, you focus on the hope of my future , you let my small simple steps, lead us forward.

Never standing still, always in motion- You move before me , your planning-  protective and positive, prepares me for success- meeting new people, and new everyday challenges.

..and Mom, in case I ever go- before I can whisper my words of thanks, or wrap my arms around you.

Know what I know-that before you someday soothe me into heaven’s sleep.

With you, I live the fullest life and I see the world, through your understanding eyes.

And with your gentle touch you fill my life to overflowing, with the greatest kind of love.

Written by Suzanne Perryman, SpecialNeedsMom.com


Hoping this IMproves your day,


Sally Ellis